The contacts and networks you build in life grow proportionally to the knowledge you share of others.

“What are you doing?” is the question of Twitter, a micro-blogging service that in 140 characters or less you can share your information.

“What are you up to?” is the question at the workplace, co-workers or managers finding out what you’re working on, perhaps by the water cooler.

“How have you been?” is the question of when a friend calls over the phone, on messages your phone.

How do you respond to these questions normally?

“…I’m working on the computer” – Twitter

“…I’m working on my project” – Work

“…I’ve been good” – Friends

These phrases are conversation killers! The majority of the time, most people don’t care because these questions are impulse questions, you say it when you don’t know what else to say or because “it’s the right thing to do”.

Don’t conversation kill the conversation starter, use it to everyone’s advantage!

Here are some tips to blossom regular conversations into something fantastic!

• Impart knowledge. What are you doing that is benefiting you or others? Bring it up! “I am reading a book on psychology” “I am preparing for a speech on the rising of Apple” “I am writing a paper on why we are driven by emotions, would you like to hear more?” The receiving party will inquire more about it, and then you care share all the knowledge that you’ve gained and pass it on! Conversations like these motivate others to become better than what they are!

• Impart successes. Did you just finish a big project? Did you finish the garden today? Finally get that workout strategy down pat? Share it! There are tons of people in the world not taking action for projects they want to work on, because sub-consciously they think “It’s going to be a lot of work, I’m not Superman”. You bringing up a project you’ve finished and what steps you took to get there help build confidence in both parties for future projects!
• Show positive energy and emotion. Be excited when you are talking to others! When imparting knowledge or success, have that passion ready to share, it could mean the difference between someone having a terrible day and a positive one because you had something exciting to share! 50% Knowledge 50% Attitude, you need to inject both into your communication in order to effectively deliver. Motivation drives ordinary people to do great things!

Please don’t be a conversation killer to others. The reason they ask you about what you are doing in life is because they care and actually want to listen. Denying them information is just a waste of not only their time, but an opportunity for you to shine!

Communication is what the listener does; however, it does start with you!